Hi, my name’s Katrina. You’re lucky I’m talking to you because I don’t usually approach people. I’ve moved around a lot because of foster care, so I’ve always been the new girl. Sometimes you get tired of reintroducing yourself, trying to make new friends. You get tired of forming bonds with people just to not end up having them in your life. Sometimes I feel like a ghost. I feel like I moved from place to place without anyone noticing I was ever there. Nobody keeps in touch with somebody they only knew for a couple weeks or a couple months. You get forgotten. At least that’s what happened to me. Sometimes when you move around in the system, you don’t always get to collect numbers and addresses, and they never come looking for you. After a while constant small chat is boring. What’s the point? I don’t go looking for companionship anymore. If someone wants to be my friend, they must come to me. I want friendship, but I don’t need it, so I don’t make much of an effort anymore. You must show me that you really want a lasting friendship. I want to know your dreams, I want to know your feelings on certain subjects, I want to hear interesting things you’ve learned. I want meaningful conversation, intelligent conversations, deep conversations. Gossip is so boring to me. I’m too old to have childish friendships. We’re adults, you need to have goals and be out here trying to accomplish them. I don’t have time for clingy relationships. You must understand that we are both busy trying to achieve goals, and that we’re still friends no matter how long we go without talking. I’m focused on my goals and I won’t let anyone distract me from them. If we can’t be boring together, are we even friends? I want friends I can read next to, get work done next to, game with, nap with, watch movies, and relax with while drinking wine or something. Nothing too crazy. I got responsibilities, I don’t be trying to waste money. I love my sleep, I don’t be trying to be out all night. I have a beautiful son to think about. We’re a package deal. He goes where I go and if he can’t go, neither can I. He’s 2 and I plan on enjoying him being little as long as I can. It flies by so quickly. It’s not like I’ll always have a child attached to me. If you can’t accept the fact I’m invested in my goals and invested in my child, then you don’t really deserve to be my friend anyways. It’s so difficult making friends that meet my standards. I don’t feel like I’m asking for much either. It’s not crazy to want to accomplish your goals and do right by your children. It’s crazy to not have goals and plans for your life. It’s crazy to have children and have other people raising them. I don’t want a lot of friends, I just want the right ones.
13. An Honest Greeting
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I also was in foster care. I however was lucky enough to be able to stay with family. I lived with my aunt for 2 years and my grandparents for another year before my dad regained custody of us 3 kids. It’s been 16 years and my mom still has yet to comply with the requirements and has given up on even wanting visits with my 15 year old brother. My mom was pregnant with him when myself and my other younger brother were taken.
I definitely think you hit the mark here on being honest about yourself. It definitely gets to the point of what you’re about and what you’re not willing to put up with. Good for you for being self aware.
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Thank you for sharing. My parents gave up their rights. Later on in life I learned that they were pregnant with my little brother. They were told if they didn’t give up their rights to us they would take my little brother away as soon as he was born. They got their shit together for my little brother. They’re still poor but they’re not as bad as they used to be. The people who adopted me and my sisters got rid of me when I was 14. I haven’t had anything to do with them since. I’m out here in this world by myself. I have to accomplish my goals, I can’t afford to lose. I want people who want to see me win and I want to see people accomplish their goals too. If there’s anything the system has taught me it’s that it’s better to be alone than to be surrounded by bad company.
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That was definitely an honest greeting. It is wonderful to know what you want and that you won’t settle for anything less, I respect that. You say you enjoy video games, what sorts of games are you into? I’m a huge video game nerd myself.
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I suck at Fortnite but I will play. I’m mainly on that new Black ops 4. I’m a prestige master on Black ops 3. I get down in Zombies don’t even matter which one. I play Assassins Creed and shit like that. I have Crash and Ratchet and Clank. Hoping to add the new Spyro to my collection!! 🙂
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Have not such good parents always teach you how to be a great parent! I am a young mother also, my daughter just turned 3. I grew up more around my mom then dad but she DID NOT raise me. I was raised by my great grandmother which I almost lost my mind when I lost her but I’ve learned how to love my daughter so much more! Also I wouldn’t mind having a mom friend, I’m the only one with a baby so I get pushed out of the gathering 😔
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You got that right. At least you had your great grandmother as long as you did. All you need in life is at least one person who cares about you. But I wouldn’t mind a mom friend either. We could watch our little monsters destroy everything in their path!!
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Katrina,
Wow! This was a heavy post, but I truly appreciated your authenticity and honesty in explaining why you are intentional with friendships. My upbringing was nothing like yours but I too, as an adult have found myself asking that question, like “if we can’t be boring together are we even friends?” You sound like a very genuine person and I’m sure that’ll attract equally genuine people to you, and into your life!
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Thanks I sure hope so!! It’s easier for people to understand you when you show them who you really are. I’ve always been an open book.
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Moments of Awesomeness — Katrina — I knew from your DB posts that you were going to be good at this blogging business. Your personality shows through your writing voice, and that’s what blogging really requires. (I wonder, too, if that has something to do with your background: you don’t have time to be anything less than completely authentic.) That part–the Katrina voice–you should keep doing.
Next time — Paragraphs. They are a gorgeous writing tool that helps writers signal shifts in topic/focus and that gives readers visual cues and a nice eye break. USE ‘EM!
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Thank you for your feedback I really do appreciate it. I will definitely use paragraphs next time, sorry about your eyes!!
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